This is an article which we take it from www.romania-insider.com because it helps us to promote Romania better.
There are some patterns many Romanians tend to follow, and some of them may come as surprising for foreigners. There are exceptions from the examples below, of course, and the generalization is simply to highlight the extremes one may be faced with while dealing with Romanians.
Family is at the core of everything; family needs support, and offers support. Even if many Romanians do not openly admit it, and even if they have borrowed a lot from the Western ways of thinking and acting, most Romanians are very much connected to their families. They will call close family and relatives often, sometimes on a daily basis, and in many cases young Romanians take care of their elderly, supplementing their low income. It runs both ways, with a lot of youngsters getting support from their families until an old age – either by living home with parents, or by receiving packages with food, if parents live in the countryside, and children in the city.
Family time is also very important, and it is often spent watching TV, or visiting relatives, or going on holidays. Either way, better not to stand in the way of a Romanian and their family! Win their family, or at least ask about their family, their children, and you have won a lot in the relationship with a Romanian, even when dealing with business. Gifts for family members and showing interest in family members goes a long way with a Romanian. For many Western Europeans, where family relationships are not necessarily that close, this fact comes as a surprise at their first contact with Romania.
Patriotism and hatred for Romania somehow go hand in hand. Romanians don’t often share their patriotism with the world, they do so more when Romania achieves some performance on the international scene – either wins a sports or artistic prize. Then much of the country has one heart. For the rest of the time, however, Romanians swing between loving their country for the good and the bad, and hating it. Yes, hating it, to the point where they decide to leave it. And even when the do that – leave the country to search a better life elsewhere, Romanians are almost always drawn back, and not just by the family they left behind.
The more surprising fact here is that, despite criticizing their country a lot – and not doing much about the things they criticize – Romanians can’t stand it when foreigners do the criticizing. “I am allowed to criticize it, because it is my own country,” is the thinking pattern many Romanian follow. As a foreigner, if you criticize Romania too much, you will upset Romanians, even if they generally share the same opinion on their country.
A ‘love-and-hate’ relationship with foreigners. Foreigners are generally warmly welcomed in Romania and pretty much loved all over. A foreigner will understand that from their first encounter with Romania or with Romanians in general. It could be because of how secluded Romanians were for so many years under the Communist regime, where everything foreign was a gold mine.
But irrespective if the reason, being a foreigner will get you far in Romania, much father than it would have in many other countries. Foreigners usually integrate very well in Romania and are accepted by Romanians in their groups of friends. Romanians are proud to have foreign friends, they feel it somehow reflects upon on them the fact that you’re a foreigner. The higher your social status, the better. There will be however people who will not like foreigners as much – the thinking behind it is that they came to ‘steal’ the poor country, buy the large companies ,buy the lands and the forests, and that in general foreigners came to be our ‘bosses’ and make large profits on the back of low paid Romanians. Whichever the standing point towards foreigners, you will be able to spot it quite early on.